1) Relationships are like partnerships - unilateral decisions, or worse, decisions taken for the other person without involving the other person in the decision making process, are a sure recipe for disaster
2) Talk, talk, talk - breakdown in communication is probably the single most and yet, most easily fixed, factor in troubled relationships
3) It should always be about "us" - never about "you" and "me"
4) The goal of any argument or fight should be the betterment of the relationship and a strengthening of the basics and the foundation of the relationship - never to prove a point
5) Ego has no place in intimate relationships
6) The only time you should use "I" is at the head of "I love you" or "I miss you". Any other use of "I" is probably a manifestation of rule 3 breaking down
7) Sorry should never be needed, and yet, is the easiest and simplest way to break the tension - a sorry should be an immediate and ultimate weapon against ego
8) Never doubt the basics - every time you doubt the basics, you are destroying the cornerstones of your relationship
9) Every small gesture adds to the strength - and most gestures take less than 15 seconds
10) It's all about the small gestures - a reassuring SMS goes a much longer way in strengthening a relationship, than a candle light dinner at a five star restaurant or a diamond
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An offshoot to the "ego" point is that one should learn to accept mistakes. One single, "yes, that was my bad" goes a long way!
On another note, do you follow these points yourself? cos they are quite idealistic and hard to follow!
I try to, as much as my stupid ego allows me to :)
They say, that relationships are complicated, but they are really much simpler! Very few rules for all kinds of relationships, the way I see it -
1. Be yourself. If you're with someone who does not accept you and respect you, there's nothing you can do to change or improve that relationship.
2. Make sure that you appreciate and respect the other person equally
3. Always give complete attention to the other person when you're with them. Even if you dont get much time together, being one hundred percent present, sharing a decent conversation, a good laugh and a great time, no matter how little, can go a long way!
4. Share your life. Your dreams. Your Past. Your Present. The more you share the stronger, the relationship is.
5. First Rule of Every Relationship - You're never too busy when the other person is in need! People in your life are more important than the tasks is your life!
6. Nothing's Perfect! Not Everyday will be great. Accept it! And get over it!
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